It's hard to imagine beforehand how you will feel when your baby is born. Mothers experience many emotions after giving birth, some of them unexpected:
'I was exhausted, but I had a tremendous feeling of achievement!'
'I wasn't interested in the baby and just wanted - more strongly than I've ever wanted anything - to be left alone.'
'I certainly didn't feel an overwhelming sense of love for him.'
'I knew I would do anything for her for the rest of my life.'
Some women fall instantly in love with their babies. Others grow to love them over a period of days or months. You may have to let go of the fantasy baby of your pregnancy and adjust to the real baby in your arms.
You may simply feel relieved that you have your baby safely in your arms. You might feel that next time you definitely don't want a caesarian! Some mothers feel disappointed they didn't have a 'normal' birth and feel in some way less of a woman or mother.
• Ask your midwife to explain why you needed a caesarian and whether you will be able to have a normal delivery another time.
• Talk to other women who have had caesarians and compare notes.
• Contact the Caesarian Support Network on 01624 661269.